FENG SHUI - Bad Energy
In Feng Shui it is a fairly firm belief that all things interact
with one another. This interactive flow of energy exchanged
between things is believed to enhance, diminish, or neutralize
the potential energy flow of each entity. This applies to non-living
and living things equally. So, what we have in close proximity to us
can have a significant impact on our energy at any given moment.
Most, when thinking of Feng Shui, optimization of a location
think in terms of location, direction, lighting, living space
shapes and such. However, I would encourage many to consider a
locations energy history as well when thinking of buying,
renting or expanding to a new area. Take a moment to reflect
back on your own feelings and experiences with places you have
lived or visited. Have you ever just walked into a building and
felt something was just not right beyond any flaw in design
that you might be able to visually see? Have there been locations
that some you know would think of as dumpy or just not posh and
yet, you have found yourself feeling totally safe and at home
in such locations?
Some might argue that only experts can give an accurate evaluation
of a locations Chi. I disagree. I have seen time and time again
that many people when they follow their inner gut feelings can
tell you how something feels in terms of positive or negative
energy. When we get such senses of the feel of a location or a
person it is critical that we follow this sense. Inner wisdom is
not a small thing.
Many years ago I had a very dramatic lesson on location and Chi.
I had been looking for an apartment with my partner and he had gone
to a property management group to help us in our apartment search.
With limited funds and not the best credit it was more of a challenge
than your average apartment hunt. His agent ended up calling one
afternoon with a steal of a place. It was affordable and within our
budget. We were given the indication that we should jump on this place
Visiting the place I was to find that it was a partially
refinished attic and might not have been an exactly legal
apartment to code. There was not even a bedroom door to separate
the living room eating area from the sleeping area. The ceiling
was highly slanted and the design shape was an absolute Feng Shui
nightmare. Yet, we needed a place to live and this was after all
a steal. Something bothered me about the feel of the place. I
thought maybe it was the darkness or maybe the height. I was not
sure what it was about the feel of the place that bothered me.
Yet, my partner convinced me this was really a great place for the
money so we signed a lease.
Prior to moving in together our relationship had been non-ideal
in more aspects than should have been present. I had hoped
foolishly that living together might improve the situation.
Instead, living together in our apartment worsened the situation
intensely. My partner seemed to be sliding further into an
escalating cycle of moodiness, jealousy and lying. It got to the
point I finally told him I needed a break and at the start of the
next semester I was moving into the girls dorm at college.
Then the night before I was to take my drivers exam my partner
flew into a rage when I declined his sexual advances. His anger
blew like a volcano as he attempted to sexually harm me and even
attempted to kill me. It was an assault that lasted for hours. The
details of which are not important to this story. I had tried to
get to the phone to call for help. He ripped the phone out of the
wall. I screamed for help hoping a neighbor might hear - but not a
soul seemed to hear.
Obviously I made it through the ordeal for I am here today writing.
You might be wondering okay - the lady was dating a psycho - what
has that got to do with energy? Well a week after the ordeal I noted
a small boy near the first floor apartment staring at me intently. I
chalked his stare up to his probably having seen the police come to
my apartment a couple times that week. I smiled at him and he replied
with a question. Are you doing okay? I thought oh the little thing
has seen the police and he is worried. So I replied of course. (I
know horrible to lie to a kid, but why burst a kids bubble on the
safety of the world was my rational.) Then the little boy started to
apologize to me and tell me he was so sorry for what had happened to
me. I played stupid. I asked him what are you talking about honey?
Next the little boy shared with me something that rocked my sense
of safety. He told me he was sorry the bad man in my apartment had
hurt me - that he had heard and that he had wanted his dad to call
someone to help or to come up and help me. Yet, he told me his dad
did not want to get involved so his father had not done a thing. The
little boy had heard the struggle, heard my screams for help and to
God, and he had sat in his kitchen hoping I would be okay. Then he
told me something that really unsettled me. He told me this had
happened before in that apartment. That another man living in that
apartment had badly hurt a woman living there and he had heard that
too. He wished that no man would ever move into that apartment again.
I had no idea what to say to the poor kid. I knew I had been the one
almost killed and I was the one with the protective order that was
not being properly enforced. Yet, this child seemed victimized by
what had happened to me as well.
Now if I had know that there had been a history of extreme violence
in that apartment I never would have moved into it with the bad
feeling I had when I first took a look at it. I dont think most
people want to move into a place where someone else was significantly
harmed and where a prior couples relationship self-destructed. Yet,
how many of us take the time to research the reason the last party
really moved out or what bad things may have occurred on a property?
How many of us take the time to clear the energy of the last occupants
out or to have our homes blessed?
Now part of me wants to rationalize that maybe the reason the
last couple in my old apartment also had situation where a man
hurt a woman was because of chance, that those in lower financial
situations are more prone to see battery by man toward a woman or
maybe it was extreme heat that seemed to shoot out of the apartment.
Yet, sometimes from the mouths of children come extreme tidbits of
wisdom. Look to the history of something to see what its future
might hold. If something has stayed the same why would you expect
There are things that one can do to try to try avoid such things as
what occurred to me. A good start is to follow the feel or intuition
of a place or situation. Ask yourself if you had a child and you felt
like you did about a place or situation - would you let your child go
ahead and take the chance? Next, is to make sure when you are looking
at a property that you take the time to really walk around the place
to get a feel within yourself of how comfortable the places feels.
This can be difficult when one has a pesky non-stop talking manager
with you. But, assert yourself and tell the party you want to be alone
in place for just bit to get a feel. Remember if the property has
problems the last thing a selling/renting agent may want is for you to
find or feel them. I also suggest you think of asking the neighbors
about the history of a property and the people who lived/worked in a
property if you can.
If you fall in love with a property and it feels good to you - but
you find out that the last occupants are selling the place because
of divorce (which happens quite a bit these days!), there are things
you can do. You can make sure the relationship sections of your home
are properly activated and you can use the knowledge as an opportunity
to discuss your current relationship status and issues with your partner.
Go with your feelings and empower yourself.
I suggest to people moving into a new place to do a space clearing
before moving in. This can be done by ones self or with the help of
a space clearing professional. There are books that one can use to
facilitate the space clearing ceremony of ones choice. I personally
am into a good cleaning, smudging, burning candles with intent to
burn off the bad energy of a place, and having ones house (and occupants)
blessed by a priest. However, I am an occasional practicing Catholic
and you might desire to do something else to clear the prior energy
in your home. Out with the old energy - and in with the new!
© Desiree A. Krautkramer