FENG SHUI - Self Reflection
Last year I met my first Feng Shui consultant at a networking
event in Federal Way, Washington. Truthfully, I thought the whole
placement for power thing, which she was espousing, was just a
bunch of silliness that some person made up to make a few bucks.
What rational basis could there be in the belief that the
placement of my stuff could impact me in any way except if I
tripped over my stuff?
I continued with my refusal to believe in such silliness for
several months. Then, one day while at a bookstore, I picked up a
Feng Shui book to browse through while waiting for a date to arrive.
I thought, okay this should be good for a few laughs. After flipping
through the book - I was flabbergasted as I pondered that this author
had seen my apartment! How could this person so correctly guess that
my love life would suck and that by chance I have this incredible
tendency to want to throw tons of stuff in every relationship sector
in my home?
I thought okay maybe it's just chance or maybe those inclined to
read such self help books in home design are statistically more
inclined to have messed up love lives. After all, are not those
with no significant other more inclined to have more reading time
on their hands and more inclined to want to work on self in pursuit
of a loved one? Then I kept reading, and I saw certain patterns of
decorating and placement that seemed to be in direct contrast to my
stated goal of wanting a relationship. I said I wanted a loving man
and a family one day - yet, these symbols were entirely lacking
in my apartment.
What decorated my walls? Image upon image of women either sitting,
thinking or writing alone. I had decided upon my divorce several years
ago that I should decorate my home with images of single women being
happy and single. I had thought why have images in my home of what I do
not have and may never have in my life again. Should I not celebrate my
single status? As I flipped through the pages of the book I thought -
the single image thing is chance.
Surely I must have other things that I am doing that are not
symbolically contradicting my stated intent of wanting a healthy
relationship. The next chapter I flipped to dealt with placing objects in
groupings to celebrate relationships. This didn't add to my sense of
comfort at wanting to discard the idea that I might have set myself up for
bad relationship energy. I felt like the author had come to my
apartment and used me as an example of what not to do in decorating
your home. Not only had I started to put up single women images all
over my apartment, I had also started this odd trend of buying single
objects that matched nothing and would have to sit all by themselves.
Why buy a pair of something if you are not a pair? If you are not even
a pair, why buy groupings?
In my pursuit to try to write off what I had read in the Feng Shui book
I figured I would try to find data to support my belief that this is all
just silliness. I asked a few people about their home decorating tendencies
for images, groupings and the status of their relationships in their
lives. What I found did not support my desire to want to write off
Feng Shui. I found person after person, of the social butterfly tendency,
had a thing for wanting to have collections of things in tidy groupings.
And, person after person who were of the anti-social or non-relationship
blessed type seemed to have thing for solitary item placements.
A 73 year old lady I met attributed her good health in relationship to
her age, to her social life. She thought it bizarre that anyone would
not place things in groupings. She reflected how much of her life she
had sensed a desire to have everything from candlesticks to picture
frames in at least pairs if not groupings of at least 4 or 5 of each
item. How she viewed her stuff is how she viewed life - it is not good
to be alone. And, her life mirrored this in her never being alone and
always being part of some sort of a group.
I have come to think that using Feng Shui is a lot like using
Reiki energy to heal. As a level II Reiki practitioner I have
learned that true inner intent is vital in maximizing one's life.
Everything has energy. How we use or not use the energy allotted
to us defines our lives. By seeing patterns in our lives reflected
back at us, we can learn to see ourselves more truly and learn to
either accept or improve upon the images reflected back at us. We
can use exploring how we decorate our homes and our offices as tools
to examine what we may be doing unconsciously to sabotage our inner
and outer successes.
Questions to reflect on:
-- Does your decorating motif reflect positively on the life,
values and goal you want to aspire to?
-- Have you decorated from a sense of what you do not have or
have accepted or from a desire of what you want to manifest into
-- Do you maximize the positive symbols in your home to encourage
yourself toward your dreams?
-- Have you recently looked around to see if your current
decorating scheme is current with who you want to be or be seen
© Desiree A. Krautkramer